Saturday, July 14, 2007

Emotional Intelligence versus I.Q.

In this last decade, science has discovered a tremendous amount about the role emotions play in our lives. Researchers have found that emotional awareness and the abilities to handle feelings are much more important than I.Q.

Either you control your emotions, or they control you.

Studies have shown there was very little correlation between a child's success in examinations and his/her success in adult life.

At best, I.Q. contributes 20% to the factors that determine life's success, which leaves 80% to other forces - Emotional Intelligence.

"Emotional Intelligence is a way of recognizing, understanding, and choosing how we think, feel, and act. It shapes our interactions with others and our understanding of ourselves. It defines how and what we learn; it allows us to set priorities; it drives many of our daily actions." - Freedman et al.

"What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests." - Daniel Goleman, Ph.D.

Below is an I.Q. game. If you are interested, try it out. Do share the lessons you had acquired from this IQ game!

Can you help them cross over the river?
(I had adapted this IQ game post with permission from this source)

Below are the rules that apply for this IQ game.
  1. Only 2 persons on the raft at a time
  2. The father can not stay with any of the daughters without their mother’s presence
  3. The mother can not stay with any of the sons without their father’s presence
  4. The thief (striped shirt) can not stay with any family member if the Policeman is not there
  5. Only the Father, the Mother and the Policeman know how to operate the raft
  6. To start click on the big blue circle on the right.
  7. To move the people click on them.
  8. To move the raft click on the pole on the opposite side of the river.
Click the above screen to load the game and then 開始 button to start the game.

Photo by slark taken from this source

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J@n!ce said...

I wasn't able to get the screen on my blog the last time. How do you do it?

Jennifer said...

Very important point Sam!

Our emotions are much more powerful than we give them credit for!

The more we are able to manage them the better we manage life!

Thanks for this...

And... I posted six weird things about myself today! LOL!


Sam Chan said...

Hi Janice,
You can use your Internet Browser to save the screenshot. Then upload it to your blog. However, you have to link the screenshot to this URL to have the game working:

Hope this helps.

Sam Chan said...

Hi Jennifer,

That's right.. Our emotions are much more powerful. Thus we need to always keep our emotions in the right state of mind!

Thanks for your continued support and interest in what I do. LOL!

Sue said...

That IQ game was hard, I gave up. Does that mean I failed my IQ test? hahaha.

Nice blog...

Sam Chan said...

Hi Sue,
The important point for today's message is that EQ is more important than IQ. There are actually many lessons we can learn from this simple IQ game.

One thing for sure, with Patience (EQ), even though it seems difficult initially, if one do not give up, many actually could solve this game. Just like problems in life, even though you have not solve it today, you can still try again other time - right?

I let you all share the rest of the lessons.

Best Wishes

Mr Fong said...

gosh,i never realized i was so impatient and lazy that i hate repeating over and over :)

you post alot.great!

Sam Chan said...

Hi Mr Fong,

Thanks! I'm glad this little post made sense to you.

Well, if you don't want be impatient / lazy, just make a change!

A change for the better always starts with a change of thinking. It is a decision we got to decide individually.

Best Wishes

Sleeping said...

Solution: wait until winter, cross it once river is under ice.

Did I win?

Sue said...


You sure now how to get me to think! You are absolutely right. I can try again. (and I have no patience) And IQ doesn't matter. hahaha! I get it now!

Sam Chan said...

Hi Sleeping,
Thanks for trying. I am sorry, you did not win!

Let me give you a couple of hints:
Step 1 - Policeman and Thief go across
Step 2 - Policeman return
Step 3 - Policeman and one boy

Okay enough hints, try again :-)

Good luck

Sam Chan said...

Hi Sue,

Another lesson from this game is that although it is a real game, some thought it is a trick i.e. thinking that it is not possible at all. Well, just like in our life endeavor, one need faith or strong belief that it is achievable otherwise one will give up easily giving all sort of excuses.

I do hope you or those who are reading this will share other lessons one could learn from this game.

Best Wishes

Honman said...

Good post. If you have a positive mindset, you tend to have a good EQ. Your minset influences your actions and your actions determine your life. Feel free to visit my blog when you have time.

Sam Chan said...

Hi Honman,

Very very true! Our thoughts control our life. However, we control our thoughts and we are free to think of positive thoughts!

Thank you for your insight and wisdom!

Best Wishes

anits said...

I did it!! so my IQ level is quite good :)

Sam Chan said...

Hi Anits,
Congratulation! Indeed, that could mean your IQ is quite good. However, the message from this post is that EQ is much more important than IQ. Thus, one should improve their EQ!

For example, although a guy could be very intelligence but if he/she is easily get angered, he/she has lost a great deal of wisdom!

Best Wishes

Titus-Armand said...

Yay, I've completed the game!! :)

What I've learned from it?... I've learned that perseverance is the key to get things done. :)

Sam Chan said...

Great! Titus-Armand

Yup... perseverance is the key. As long as one keep trying and never give up, everything is possible!

Thanks for sharing the lesson you had acquired from this IQ game.

Best Wishes

Mika said...

Yehey!! :D All of them crossed the river safely. :D

Okay.. Hint: The first shall be the last. ;)

Sam Chan said...

Hi Mika,
Congratulation to you!
Very true, the first shall be the last!

I wonder whether anybody want me to post the solution :-)

My best wishes.

Rachel David said...

Yes, emotional intelligence is more powerful than intellectual quotient because one can have a good control of him and can handle any situations with less effort and time.

John said...

A person, who leads a management team, must be able to control his emotional feelings, when it comes to profession. A person lack of emotional intelligence cannot become a good leader.

Fid"s said...

emotion was very important part of our life, We must try to manage the emotion because it more important than IQ