Wednesday, July 11, 2007

What are you telling yourself and others?

"The casual, instantaneous nature of email and SMS has heightened the potential for misdirected communication and offenders can now achieve worldwide infamy at breakneck speed." - Source

I remembered reading a true story that happened during one of the Valentine's Day. It was about a lady that happened to read an SMS that was sent wrongly to her husband when he was taking his bath.

Well, anybody can get messed up in their lives, if they continue to take actions based on invalid assumptions. We must always avoid jumping to assumptions!

“Assumptions are the termites of relationships.” - Henry Winkler

“Begin challenging your own assumptions. Your assumptions are your windows on the world. Scrub them off every once in awhile, or the light won't come in.” - Alan Alda

Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.” - Don Miguel Ruiz

"The way we communicate with others and with ourselves ultimately determines the quality of our lives." - Tony Robbins

Stephen R. Covey says, “We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be. And our attitudes and behaviors grow out of these assumptions.”

So let's remind ourselves that we mustn't assume anything seen or heard is the final truth. It is always better to validate and find out more first! What do you think?

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surjit said...

You are right Sam.Appearances are often deceptive. Polished brass will pass with more people than the rough gold.. I agree with your words:

“We simply assume that the way we see things is the way they really are or the way they should be'
A good post.Thanks and good luck.

Jennifer said...

GREAT post Sam!

I find myself making assumptions without even realizing it at times.

It is good to just be aware of the many assumptions we make unconcsiously so we can step back and reevaluate!

Thanks for this Sam,


Sam Chan said...

Hi Surjit,

Good insight!

I like your quote: "Polished brass will pass with more people than the rough gold"

Thank you for your insight and wisdom!

Best Wishes

Sam Chan said...

Hi Jennifer,
Thanks for sharing your honest views. I'm glad this post made sense to you.

Thanks for your kind support and encouragement! It means a lot!

Many Blessings to you!

Mr Fong said...

ah,great..thanks! :)

Sam Chan said...

Hi Mr Fong,

Thanks for giving me your feedback. I really appreciate it.

Best Wishes

Nicole said...

Great post. It is true, we should take a step back before assuming anything these days especially over via email or text because things can be read completely out of context. Blessings, Nicole

Nicole said...

WOW... that is powerful. Thanks!

Sam Chan said...

Hi Nicole

That's right.. we should take a step back before jump to assumptions!

Everyone tend to understand a message based upon his/her past point of reference. Thus, many messages can bring about misunderstanding. Although, emoticons can help a bit, it is still not good enough.

So we ought to remember to ask whenever we are not sure and express as accurately as possible.

Thanks Nicole, for sharing your valuable thoughts.

Best wishes.